Cheating Spouses, Conniving Cheaters

As I am reading the New York Daily News, right on Page 3, is an article exposing the extra-marital affair of Citigroup Board Chairman, Richard Parsons. Not that this is a new revelation or that this doesn't happen often, but I thought I'd write about the infidelities and who would be considered at fault based on the circumstances!

Now, this also brings to mind the Swizz Beats/Alicia Keys situation and even Jesse Jackson's affair that produced an out of wedlock child. Who is primarily at fault when it comes to extra-marital affairs? Is it the committed person, who signed into an agreement with his/her spouse to be dedicated to that spouse until 'Death Do Us Part'? Or is it the fault of the other party, (Provided that party knows the interested party is in fact, married) who has no legal or moral obligation to the married party, although knowing that the other party, is indeed in a committed relationship?



I would have to say that it's primarily, morally and legally, the fault of the married party simply because that person, before God and many witnesses, made a commitment and in essence, signed a contract (Marriage license) to stay committed to this person, 'For Better Or For Worse', not until someone better comes along.

But, the blame also falls on the willing party, ESPECIALLY if this person knows/knew that the person is in a supposedly, monogamous relationship and then, as the case of MacDella Cooper (The 'other' woman in the Dick Parsons situation), who knew/knows that Dick is married, yet chooses to not only cheat with him but also bear his child. What goes through the mind of a woman that knowingly has a child with a man who has been married for almost 31 years?

I don't know about you, but I feel that, although things do change, marriage IS a commitment that should be taken serious and, despite the circumstances, if you feel that strongly about seeing someone else, enough where a child is brought into the picture, you should man up and either end your marriage or be a man and keep your end of the bargain and NOT fornicate with another!

As far as a woman who is cheating with a known married man, although the man should bear the majority of the fault in this, you also should bear blame as well, especially if you know that this man has an actual family. If you are bold enough to have a family with a man who already has a family, how ignorant can you be, especially knowing that this same man can do the same to you? Although i know in most cases, it's a financial situation knowing that this man is worth millions, on top of millions of dollars, but where is the moral obligation?